路

路是自己走出來的，走條快樂的路吧！快樂與否都是自己負責，何苦為難自己？

选择或抉择

关于选择或抉择，不知道该如何说好，也很难用一个公式表达出来。情感婚姻是人生 最大的选择和抉择之一。一些人出现在我们的生活中，都可能成为自己未来的伴侣，当然只能是一个，且只能是一次的选择和抉择。所以在进入婚姻之前要慎之又 慎，认真地从各个方面去考察，两个人是不是适合做终身的伴侣，不仅包括人格，兴趣，生活习惯，家庭背景，相互的吸引力，更包括信仰方面等等。若忽视自己内 心的感受、兴趣、爱好、等等，导致在婚姻中有痛苦是无法回避的事实，不管他/她有多属灵；然而也不可过之，要合乎中道。掌握不好就是弱处，之后再若处理不 好便成为恶者攻击的破口，那时我们自己会在其中受很多苦。所以，要坦诚相见自己内心的需要，看自己合乎中道，不勉强自己，也不定罪自己。

记得婚前选择你所爱的，婚后爱你所选择的。

人生的旅程

每个人的生命旅程，路途遥遥漫长，顺景丶逆境……有时事情能否想得通，都仅只一线之差。许多时候，只是换了一个不同的思想角度，又或是通过一组文字带来的反射作用，从心底里感受，回响，简短的几句话语，却足以使人得到一些新的启发，甚或是黑暗中的一线曙光；过後，人和事亦随之而看开了丶想通了。

人生之中 ， 未必每段路都尽然能够走得很如理想 ，只要自己有去向 ，有目标 ，有清晰的前景；每个阶段 ，都就像踏在一块跳板之上 ，只要自己在任何时候都一样的把握 ，和同样的勇於付出 ；过程中， 每个人都 一定有迷惘的时候 ，只要你不放弃；那麽 ，任何时候都是你突围而出的时候 。

爱情语录(2)

生命是一种过程，“决定”并没有对错，只是人生无法重来，分手的理由有千百种，有人因贫穷离开、有人因 背叛、有人个性不合……，通常听到别人的故事都会赞叹“天啊！他这么好，为什么你不要？”然而看看自己的故事，总认为全世界最可怜的人就是我，总认为自己 的故事可以写成小说，还可以搬上荧幕拍电影……。

人喜欢把自己塑造成悲剧的角色，获取同情的眼光，然而这样的心灵种子只会再度吸引到悲剧的故事上演，就像身上有块磁铁只能吸引铁钉而不能吸到美丽的宝石。

爱情语录

很多人习惯把爱交给别人决定，有时是奉父母之命，有时是奉子女之命，有时是朋友，有时是媒妁之言，甚至是毫不相干的命理老师；古代的人即是如此，亦是相安一生，原因是古人三从四德，嫁鸡随鸡，认命不强求，再者封闭社会，别人也无法了解你真实的生活如何。

幸福是一种感觉，一种境界，不是物质可以表达，不是金钱可以衡量，不是名利可以炫耀，所以每个人都配拥有幸福，它并非专利。

靜思語

人生不一定球球好球，但是有歷練的強打者，隨時都可以揮棒。

不要抱怨

对于已经发生的不幸，对于已经造成的错误，你当然会懊悔，会心怀不平，后悔莫及。

但是，不要抱怨，除非这样做能帮助你改变事实，或是为你解除烦恼，否则，千万不要抱怨。
因为无谓的抱怨，只会把你自己陷入一个更痛苦的深渊，愈来愈无法自拔，让你再也看不到外面的世界。

没有人喜欢听到你喋喋不休的抱怨声，没有人喜欢看到一张怨怼不满的脸。这是一件损人不利己的事。

对命运也好，环境也好，要不然就欣然接受，要不然就默然忍受，如果都做不到的话，那么就反抗吧！只是千万别抱怨。

忍耐

忍耐，是一种涵养，一种学问，一种人生境界
在愤怒中安静，
在激动中自持，
在冤屈中沉默，
在危险中镇静，
在贫困中安然，
在寂寞中恬然自得，
在苦难中泰然自处。
你要把眼泪收起来，把笑脸摆出来；
把伤口遮起来，把胸膛挺起来。
你要在心口插着一把刀的时侯，还能笑得出来。

Thorn of flowers

每株玫瑰都有刺，正如每个人的性格都有你不能容忍的部份。
爱一朵玫瑰，并不是把它的刺除去，
而是学习如何不被它的刺刺伤
及不让自己的刺伤害心爱的人。

" We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person"

Life long learning

Suprisingly I received a sms from my mum this morning, regarding “关于你的幸福，你要考虑清楚。”Thanks mum for understanding me.
Recently she is so enjoy sending sms to me after my dad give her a good lecture. I am so proud of you guys. Life long learning....

Another achievement!

My first Ultra marathon

Total: 60km

Start: 12:05am
Finish: 7.50am

Team mates: Hoo Ching Chong, Ching Tai, Tey Eng Tiong, Kenny Choo, Tan Khee Meng & Phyllis

The pain and suffer tend to blur with time and only the sense of accomplishment and camaraderie remain after 3 days back from Hatyai.

I would like to thank Tey Eng Tiong (marathon expert) for inviting me to the race. Being adventurous (and NOT totally crazy) and hardly a second thought, I decided to give myself a try for this special Ultra marathon (in conjunction with the 60th anniversary of King Bhumibol Adulyadej’s ascension to the Thai throne) in Hatyai, Thailand. Without much preparation and did not train at all (not even 20km for the last 3 weeks), I hope my previous marathon training will be sufficient to take me over the finishing line. What a gutsy thinking! (Worst come to worst, I just hop on to the ambulance).

My aim is focusing on race completion rather than being ..World Champion.

We met some Malaysian runners (from Ipoh) and having a group and individual photo before the race started. At 12 o’clock on Sunday morning, the race began with a beep sound (soft until I almost miss it) and approximately 300 runners started off to tackle this 60-kilometre race that would end at 9am.

Let the real fun begin!

It was a starry and light wind night. I wondered what am I doing here in another border at the midnight and not on my bed. I started with a slow pace as I don’t want to end myself up to go back in the ambulance. Tey, CCHoo and Ching Tai were in a steady pace too. However Kenny Choo and Khee Meng were already out of my sight. Two team leaders were competing with each other.

Along the way, there are some cyclists who act as road marshals. They will lead the runners along the way to prevent them from getting lost. Thanks for their flashlight for showing us the route while we pass by the rubber estate road which was so dark. Some runners alerted others by shouting out before they crash with each other. Overall, the route is flat and straightforward. Not many turning points.

The first 20km flew by and the heat wasn’t yet oppressive. My body was hardly drenched with sweat. This is the advantage of running at night that you don’t need to worry about the heat taking you out of the race. Water stations were seen at every 2-3km. They provide plain water at most of the water stations. Some water stations will serve with watermelons, ‘Fanta’ drink (a soft drink brand produced and distributed by the Coca-Cola Bottling Co), sweets and Jelly but hardly any bananas. Most of the time I will use the plain water to refresh myself.

I met Ching Tai and Tey at 30km marker and my watch showed 3hr5min. Voila, I am half way through. As usual, Tey will never forget to take the picture.

Then 3 of us ran together after the 30km. When I was at 38km mark, I thought I have 4 km to go to end the race. I kept thinking why the Thai King is celebrating 60 anniversary and not 42. “This is not a marathon, the night is still young, mate”

Anyway, it is too late to regret now. I kept on my pace and my legs didn’t give me much problem except my feet has begun to blister. The sky was quiet and even though all the sleep deprivation there was no hallucination. I felt awake maybe because of the excitement or the effect of coffee before race.

Another 18km to go when I cross the 42km mark. Tey told me that you may start to count down. I was bewildered, will it be too early?

“Running over a long distance is tedious at times and you will begin to replay past events in your mind, but also focus a bit negatively on what is happening at the moment and what you wish were happening.” This might be a good method to overcome it.

It will be a lonely journey after 46km as Tey was forced to stop for a break. Ching Tai was 1km away from me I guess. I hardly saw any lady runners on the way back. Anyway, it is quite safe to run alone while enjoys the rural view.

Looking at my watch, 5h30min, 10km to go, hmm arrive at 6h30min is a dream for me. Never mind, I think I can complete within 7 hours. I guess I have to forget about the free ride from ambulance as I hardly see any medical support car on my way back. Hmm, what if someone need it?

While stop by at the last 8km water station, I was asking for any toilet nearby with my limited Thai language plus some body language. The so-called International language is not working here. He pointed me to the ‘hidden toilet’ in the bushes. Squint with unbelievable. I can’t see any mobile toilet at all. Anyway, I decided to proceed after saying thank you to him.

The sun slowly illuminates the globe for us and the morning temperature is still bearable. I was starting to keep an eye for the marker because every single km less will make me great. “You have 5km to go, keep on it”, a bike marshal told me. I was lightened up!

Another 3km to go but it is enough to torture me as I was almost out of fuel. My legs were reluctant to listen to my order even merely 3km away. Luckily I met a woman veteran runner at the water station who stopped for a break. We were so happy to see each other. She spoke to me (in Thai) and I told her that I am from Malaysia. We pace with each other in a slow and steady pace. Her eyes burned with the kind of hardened determination only attainable through years of intense training or passion of running. What a samurai spirit!

At last I saw a cheer team welcomed us with big hand at the finishing line in 200m. Yeah! Finally, I am there.

I managed to finish in 6h50min, which was a good deal slower than I thought, but, hey, does it really matter? This is my first most significant run of my life. Another step further….